​“New York days Magazine reported just just how teenagers see relationships. They rightly perceived that dating involved you, in a way that is preliminary building a married relationship relationship. In order to prevent all this, a brand new as a type of meeting partners was created, the one that went directly to intercourse. A hook-up is a straightforward encounter that is sexual with no condition of performing a relationship. After a hook-up, you may wish to start a relationship relationship, or possibly not, but that’s no condition for a hook-up.”

-Tim Keller, This Is of Wedding

The difficulty our tradition has established around dating is a huge one.

Either we don’t understand how to date at all, on ourselves to date with the “intention of marrying” that it makes us so nervous we’d rather just not date anyone at all so we end up misusing and mistreating people because of ignorance, we put so much pressure!

Here’s the significant problem with the “hook-up culture” as Tim Keller discusses it into the Meaning of Marriage: We treat individuals and relationships like they have been services and products to be consumed, in place of individuals to be nurtured and loved. (more…)